Dave Thorpe Life Coach - How To Never Lose An Argument

Dave Thorpe Life Coach Path 2 Success Dave Thorpe Life Coach Path 2 Success: “This is what Path 2 Success (http://www.Path2Success4Me.com) is all about: sharing some real life coaching for individuals who need help — to fulfill the growing demand for helping people answer the question, "what is my purpose?" In a unique and encouraging way Dave Thorpe can engage young adults when struggling with tough life issues and they just want someone to "show me the way!" Dave's Path2Success combines the proven approach of performance coaching with life training that shows you how to change your life. Though it may be hard for some to admit, “I need help," the Path2Success approach to life training can help you answer the question, "Who Am I?" It's a unique leadership coaching program full of encouraging ways to help you change your life.” How to never lose an argument! The only way you can make sure you never lose an argument, to paraphrase Dale Carnegie, is: Avoid getting into one in the first place. In a discussion everyone wins. Here is how: I. We treat other people as partners in a problem-solving session. We throw out ideas, consider alternatives, and evaluate the pros and cons. II. We listen to other people's thoughts and explore ideas we haven't previously considered. III. We learn more about an issue, about what we think and feel, and about each other and each other's values. IV. We seek people's support, not their resentful silence. We may passionately disagree with each other, but mutual respect keeps the dialogue civil. In an argument no one wins. Here is why: I. We treat other people as opponents to be defeated. We draw sides, defend our own positions, and attack the opposition. If we listen at all, we do so only to find the weaknesses in the other person's reasoning. II. We aren't open to new ideas or to the possibility of changing our opinions. We want to prove the superiority of our side (and the inferiority of the other side). Even when we "win" an argument, we usually do so by losing a potential ally. Here are some tips to keep discussions from turning into arguments: Don't argue. Refuse to get drawn into an argument. Be civil. Respect the other person as much as your honor your own values. Be assertive without resorting to aggression. Seek areas of agreement. Often, we agree with people in principle, but disagree with them in practice. (We want the same thing — safer schools for our children, for example — but we have different ideas of how to accomplish it.) Find those areas of agreement. Make them explicit. Try always to make the other person a fellow problem-solver, neither an opponent nor a friend. Focus on interests, not positions. An issue is what we want or need — safer schools for example. A position is a way of achieving it. Avoid getting attached to your positions so that you don't lose sight of your interests. It's often easier to negotiate and compromise around interests than around positions. Try to see things from the other person's point-of-view. There's a reason why other people act and think the way they do — however illogical, wrong-headed, or misguided as it may seem to you. If you condemn them or show contempt for their reasoning, they will only harden in their resolve. They will resent and resist you. Seek, instead, to ferret out their hidden reasons, and you will find the key to their motivation. Ask clarifying questions. Ask open-ended questions. Closed questions — like "Do you agree with my proposal?" — limit people's ability to express themselves. Open-ended questions — like "How do you feel about my proposal?" — give them greater freedom and give you more information. Listen. Spend more time listening than speaking. (You can't get yourself into trouble by listening, but you sure can start a brawl by speaking.) Listen with your body, your eyes, and your mind as well as with your ears. Try to understand what people mean, without getting caught up in the exact words they say. Make them feel understood, and they'll be much more likely to try to understand you. If you're wrong, admit it. There's nothing wrong with changing your opinion, once you've gained new information or perspective. As a matter of fact, it's the sign of wisdom and maturity. Remember that you've been wrong in the past even when you thought you were right, and admit that you might be wrong this time. If you're right, allow the other person to save face. You're trying to win people's cooperation, not to prove them wrong. Your kindness will do more to gain their goodwill than anything else. Path2Success4Me uses these principals to help people really discover their purpose in life. P2s4me helps unlock what is buried inside you. Remember…it’s hard to learn when you are defending. It is so much more fun to relax and listen, rather than anxiously think up the smart next thing to say. About Dave Thorpe, Founder of Path 2 Success Do you want help finding answers? If so, this program approach is for you. This is a proven solution that can help you discover hope, purpose and direction. Dave Thorpe is actively recruiting individuals who want to capitalize on this incredible life coaching opportunity. Mr. Thorpe is a life coaching specialist with credentials and experience which can be seen at http://www.Path2Success4Me.com. You can also see Mr. Thorpe's blog at http://davethorpe.blogspot.com. For more information about becoming a life Coach or to schedule an interview with Mr. Thorpe, please contact Dave Thorpe, Life Coach by email at david.d.thorpe@gmail.com or by phone at 760.415.7911.

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Getting a Job These Days is Hard - Path 2 Success Can Help

Dave Thorpe and Path 2 Success

Getting a job these days is hard. 20% of 20 to 45 year olds are out of work. What is amazing is our most educated Americans are in this age group. How can this happen?

Let’s look at some issues:
1. Money
2. Resume

First off, less money is being spent. That causes manufacturers to make less, distributors to stock less, retailers to maximize their inventory turns, while consumers buy less and try to save more. Bottom line is employers need less people than before. That really hurts those looking for work.

Now let’s check out what employers are used to seeing. The resume that hits the employer’s desk is a page or so of data that describes “work done”. It is an attempt by a job seeker to put forth their best foot and “beat out the other job seeker.” It is sort of a dog eat dog mentality. The employer is seeking the perfect level of experience, the job seeker is trying to provide a resume that matches that level of perfection…both are frustrated.

Getting Your First Part Time Job - in a recent article, some good suggestions.

So how should one enter the workforce, find that dream job, or feel secure in that new position? The following offers a different view of job seeking.

A new process called Path 2 Success 4 Me encourages people to develop their strengths and leverage those strengths to work/play/ raise families/find a mate. By using Path 2 Success 4 Me it will be easier to find the right job and an appealing work environment.

Normally a:
Job Seeker - wants work that satisfies and needs a resume to find this work
Employer - wants a faithful worker to perform the desired scope of work. The employer reviews resumes that announce previous employers, duties performed, titles earned, and objectives achieved; while trying to evaluate if the seeker fits a profile causing an interview.

Tough process! It’s no wonder that many jobs these days are obtained by “relationship bridging”, meaning someone knows someone that says nice things like “you should look at so and so”. Immediately, the resume becomes a secondary, instead of a primary consideration. Because the job seeker has been “referred”, the seeker becomes “more acceptable”, thus easier to interview and hire.

Wow, it sounds like “relationship bridging” is the way to get a job. Maybe…do you know enough people that will go to work for you? Do you have your important information in the heart of your important relationships?

So does your resume:
A. Boldly declare areas in which you are personally strong or
B. Describe positions held, duties performed, results achieved

Can you imagine putting this on your resume:
that you have been personally mentored,
that your values, beliefs, and gifts indicate that you really have something to offer an employer beyond technical expertise and skill
that know how to listen, delegate, motivate, perform and share

…Pause for a minute. Creating a good resume is tough. We are uncertain as to the audience who will review a resume and are emphatically told to insure the resume maximizes our experience.

So let me ask you a question. Why is the business world heavy on experience and oblivious to the very things inherent in our ability to perform? In case you are wondering what drives your performance, here are a few invisible items on most resumes:

My Values
What I believe
How I am organized, how well I listen, delegate, motivate, & share
How I am an effective worker/manager/executive

Most people don’t think like this. How else can an employer “jump out of their seat” when reading about this unique individual. Since we are the most educated people in history how come interviewing has become biased towards position and company rather than the real things that mean something in the workplace?

The reason may be that values, beliefs, organization, listening, motivating, sharing, etc are lost arts. They are unspoken about in our homes and not elaborated upon in schools (except as to specific assignments). As educated as our job seekers may be they have not educated themselves about what is going on inside them…what makes them tick.

Therefore, it is difficult for a person looking for a job to dig any deeper than the other person looking for work who is elaborating upon their work experience, time on the job, title held, objectives completed. Shallow resumes make hitting a sweet spot for an employer a difficult chore. A company that brings us new awareness is called Path 2 Success 4 Me.

Path 2 Success 4 Me is not an elegant new thing. It is just old fashioned common sense. It helps a person pull out of themselves the very things that make them who they are! It helps them inspire confidence in themselves and arrive at determination to use their strengths because they absolutely know their strengths and know how to use them. This makes it real easy for an employer to embrace the employees strength and to encourage them to make them part of their team.

Simply stated Path 2 Success 4 Me helps a person:
Know who they are
Know where they are going
Help them see what their destination will look like
Train and empowered them develop a plan to get them there


Dave Thorpe (http://www.path2success4me.com/), an Independent Life Coach for his inspirational new Path 2 Success 4 Me PROGRAM: presents I NEED HELP, an Exclusive Life Coaching Encounter — When all you can say is, "My Life Sucks", this program can help you discover your purpose in life and help you find the answer to “Who Am I?”

Path 2 Success 4 Me - Have you found yourself saying, “I want guidance” or “I want direction in my life”? These are really challenging life issues and Dave Thorpe has been involved in life training most of his adult life. Dave has a mentor’s heart and has lived a coaching life. Through his shared experiences both going through his own challenges in life, as well as being a life coach, Dave has developed an approach which can help you turn your life around.

Path 2 Success 4 Me is a safe process that enables a person to understand their potential by finding out, “who am I?” Dave provides individuals with a process to develop their attributes into self worth and self confidence. This permits them to begin achieving objectives outside of their previous scope. This process embodies positive encouragement and accountability and enables participants to build a daily checklist to manage their life the way they want it to be fulfilled.

Path 2 Success 4 Me enables people to find out answers to questions like:
1. Who am I?
2. What is my Purpose in Life?
3. What On Earth Am I Here For?
4. Where am I going in life?
5. What will it look like when I get there?
6. When does my life stop sucking?
7. How will I get there?

As a life coach Dave unpacks the big questions of personal meaning and personal motivation. Through his life coaching process he can show you how to change your life and points the way to a more purpose-filled life. With a coach life can have more direction. Are you struggling with whether your purpose in life comes from your own personal fulfillment, your peace of mind, or even your happiness? Are you trying to find meaning in your family, your career, or even your wildest dreams and ambitions? If you want to know why you were placed on this planet and develop a clear understanding of your purpose in life, then you need to learn about Path 2 Success 4 Me.

Path 2 Success 4 Me is geared to reach three primary audiences; 1) parents, 2) students and young adults, and 3) adults who have never found answers to these questions.

PARENTS: As a parent you may find yourself frustrated because your child is not performing to your expectations. Parents want to be able to pass their legacy on to their kids, but the child seems unwilling or unable to “do the right things”. The child may do well in certain areas, but is not excelling in others. The parent wants to help in those areas. The parents want to do the “right thing”. Often the mother sees the child in conflict with the father figure and sees no possible resolution in sight, which increases her desire to find a “safe haven” to protect the child.

The parent may realize they communication at home is basic and home life is not really encouraging to the child. While the parent provides everything they have a certain level of expectation for the child to “step up to the plate”, which does not happen usually due to family dynamics of:
A. Communication between parent/child is not effective
B. Discipline in house hold lacking and usually enforced by yelling or anger
C. Parent has not been able to pass on their “knowledge” to child and feels they are not doing their job well
D. Little time is spent in family discussions and when time is spent the discussions usually end in someone being upset
E. Conversations tend to be short and parents tailor them to “did you do this…” or “why did you do that”.
F. The parent does desperately not want to be a COP, but since the child has little respect for parents issues, parents continue to be the COP.

STUDENTS and YOUNG ADULTS: The student is attending class in high school, college, or junior college, but has no clear path to as to where their education will lead them. They feel uncertain, hesitant, maybe lacking in conviction of their direction. “Where am I going?” “What is my direction in life?” Education permits them freedom from having to announce what they intend to do in life, but these are the times they should be struggling with these questions and starting to formulate a worldview. They seek purpose but have not found it in their friends, mentors, family relationships, school work, hobbies, activities, religion, or work. The student knows they want to do something in life but indecision, inability to develop a vision, and distrust of the system cause them emptiness. This may cause them to appear isolated to their parents, as the student is certainly not communicating well with them. The student may have peer relationships with little value (just hanging around), may have no mentors, they may have weak knowledge of where success is available to them, and they may have little ability to articulate who they are and what means something to them. Most certainly they don’t have a picture in their mind of what their destination “looks like” and are relatively blindly seeking direction to something satisfying to them.

ADULTS: Are your objectives being accomplished? Are you experiencing frustration and or desire for change? Some of life’s challenges may encourage you to search for alternative solutions. Where are you turning for satisfaction and joy? Do you have healthy outlets that encourage positive behavior? As an adult do you have a clear view of your destination in life? Do you have a course of action you believe in? Do you have someone like a friend or mentor or coach encouraging you to follow it? But the plan if there is one is in disarray and the adult lacks accountability to following it. Since the plan is in-effective or there is none, the adult just fills their day with sameness hoping for a change that never comes. They feel rudderless. While they may be fun on the outside, they are desperate internally. They really want a solution to their frustration with life.

About Dave Thorpe, Founder of Path 2 Success 4 Me

Do you want help finding answers? If so, this program approach is for you. This is a proven solution that can help you discover hope, purpose and direction. Dave Thorpe is actively recruiting individuals who want to capitalize on this incredible life coaching opportunity. Mr. Thorpe is a life coaching specialist with credentials and experience which can be seen at http://www.path2success4me.com/. You can also see Mr. Thorpe's blog at http://davethorpe.blogspot.com/.

For more information about becoming a life Coach or to schedule an interview with Mr. Thorpe, please contact Dave Thorpe, Life Coach by email at david.d.thorpe@gmail.com or by phone at 760.415.7911.

Dave Thorpe provides Life Coaching and Path 2 Success

DAVE THORPE INTRODUCES PATH 2 SUCCESS

“This is what Path 2 Success (http://www.Path2Success4Me.com) is all about: sharing some real life coaching for individuals who need help — to fulfill the growing demand for helping people answer the question, "what is my purpose?" In a unique and encouraging way Dave Thorpe can engage young adults when struggling with tough life issues and they just want someone to "show me the way!" Dave's Path2Success combines the proven approach of performance coaching with life training that shows you how to change your life. Though it may be hard for some to admit, “I need help," the Path2Success approach to life training can help you answer the question, "Who Am I?" It's a unique leadership coaching program full of encouraging ways to help you change your life.”

San Diego, CA, January 31, 2010 - Dave Thorpe (http://www.Path2Success4Me.com), an Independent Life Coach for his inspirational new PATH2SUCCESS pROGRAM: presents I NEED HELP, an Exclusive Life Coaching Encounter — When all you can say is, "My Life Sucks", this program can help you discover your purpose in life and help you find the answer to “Who Am I?”
path 2 success - Have you found yourself saying, “I want guidance” or “I want direction in my life”? These are really challenging life issues and Dave Thorpe has been involved in life training most of his adult life. Dave has a mentor’s heart and has lived a coaching life. Through his shared experiences both going through his own challenges in life, as well as being a life coach, Dave has developed an approach which can help you turn your life around.
Path 2 Success is a safe process that enables a person to understand their potential by finding out, “who am I?” Dave provides individuals with a process to develop their attributes into self worth and self confidence. This permits them to begin achieving objectives outside of their previous scope. This process embodies positive encouragement and accountability and enables participants to build a daily checklist to manage their life the way they want it to be fulfilled.
Path 4 Success enables people to find out answers to questions like:
1. Who am I?
2. What is my Purpose in Life?
3. What On Earth Am I Here For?
4. Where am I going in life?
5. What will it look like when I get there?
6. When does my life stop sucking?
7. How will I get there?
As a life coach Dave unpacks the big questions of personal meaning and personal motivation. Through his life coaching process he can show you how to change your life and points the way to a more purpose-filled life. With a coach life can have more direction. Are you struggling with whether your purpose in life comes from your own personal fulfillment, your peace of mind, or even your happiness? Are you trying to find meaning in your family, your career, or even your wildest dreams and ambitions? If you want to know why you were placed on this planet and develop a clear understanding of your purpose in life, then you need to learn about Path 2 Success.
Path 2 Success is geared to reach three primary audiences; 1) parents, 2) students and young adults, and 3) adults who have never found answers to these questions.
PARENTS: As a parent you may find yourself frustrated because your child is not performing to your expectations. Parents want to be able to pass their legacy on to their kids, but the child seems unwilling or unable to “do the right things”. The child may do well in certain areas, but is not excelling in others. The parent wants to help in those areas. The parents want to do the “right thing”. Often the mother sees the child in conflict with the father figure and sees no possible resolution in sight, which increases her desire to find a “safe haven” to protect the child. The parent may realize they communication at home is basic and home life is not really encouraging to the child. While the parent provides everything they have a certain level of expectation for the child to “step up to the plate”, which does not happen usually due to family dynamics of:
A. Communication between parent/child is not effective
B. Discipline in house hold lacking and usually enforced by yelling or anger
C. Parent has not been able to pass on their “knowledge” to child and feels they are not doing their job well
D. Little time is spent in family discussions and when time is spent the discussions usually end in someone being upset
E. Conversations tend to be short and parents tailor them to “did you do this…” or “why did you do that”.
F. The parent does desperately not want to be a COP, but since the child has little respect for parents issues, parents continue to be the COP.
STUDENTS and YOUNG ADULTS: The student is attending class in high school, college, or junior college, but has no clear path to as to where their education will lead them. They feel uncertain, hesitant, maybe lacking in conviction of their direction. “Where am I going?” “What is my direction in life?” Education permits them freedom from having to announce what they intend to do in life, but these are the times they should be struggling with these questions and starting to formulate a worldview. They seek purpose but have not found it in their friends, mentors, family relationships, school work, hobbies, activities, religion, or work. The student knows they want to do something in life but indecision, inability to develop a vision, and distrust of the system cause them emptiness. This may cause them to appear isolated to their parents, as the student is certainly not communicating well with them. The student may have peer relationships with little value (just hanging around), may have no mentors, they may have weak knowledge of where success is available to them, and they may have little ability to articulate who they are and what means something to them. Most certainly they don’t have a picture in their mind of what their destination “looks like” and are relatively blindly seeking direction to something satisfying to them.
ADULTS: Are your objectives being accomplished? Are you experiencing frustration and or desire for change? Some of life’s challenges may encourage you to search for alternative solutions. Where are you turning for satisfaction and joy? Do you have healthy outlets that encourage positive behavior? As an adult do you have a clear view of your destination in life? Do you have a course of action you believe in? Do you have someone like a friend or mentor or coach encouraging you to follow it? But the plan if there is one is in disarray and the adult lacks accountability to following it. Since the plan is in-effective or there is none, the adult just fills their day with sameness hoping for a change that never comes. They feel rudderless. While they may be fun on the outside, they are desperate internally. They really want a solution to their frustration with life.
About Dave Thorpe, Founder of Path 2 Success
Do you want help finding answers? If so, this program approach is for you. This is a proven solution that can help you discover hope, purpose and direction. Dave Thorpe is actively recruiting individuals who want to capitalize on this incredible life coaching opportunity. Mr. Thorpe is a life coaching specialist with credentials and experience which can be seen at http://www.Path2Success4Me.com. You can also see Mr. Thorpe's blog at http://davethorpe.blogspot.com.

For more information about becoming a life Coach or to schedule an interview with Mr. Thorpe, please contact Dave Thorpe, Life Coach by email at david.d.thorpe@gmail.com or by phone at 760.415.7911.