Dave Thorpe Life Coach
Path 2 Success:
“This is what
Path
2 Success
(http://www.Path2Success4Me.com)
is all about: sharing some real life coaching for individuals who need
help — to fulfill the growing demand for helping people answer the question,
"what is my purpose?" In a unique and encouraging way Dave Thorpe can engage
young adults when struggling with tough life issues and they just want someone
to "show me the way!" Dave's Path2Success combines the proven approach of
performance coaching with life training that shows you how to change your life.
Though it may be hard for some to admit, “I need help," the Path2Success
approach to life training can help you answer the question, "Who Am I?"
It's a unique leadership coaching program full of encouraging ways to help you
change your life.”
How to never lose an argument!
The only way you can make sure you never lose
an argument, to paraphrase Dale Carnegie, is: Avoid getting into one in the
first place.
In a discussion everyone wins.
Here is how:
I.
We
treat other people as partners in a problem-solving session. We throw
out ideas, consider alternatives, and evaluate the pros and cons.
II.
We
listen to other people's thoughts and explore ideas we haven't
previously considered.
III.
We
learn more about an issue, about what we think and feel, and about each
other and each other's values.
IV.
We
seek people's support, not their resentful silence. We may passionately
disagree with each other, but mutual respect keeps the dialogue civil.
In an argument no one wins.
Here is why:
I.
We
treat other people as opponents to be defeated. We draw sides, defend
our own positions, and attack the opposition. If we listen at all, we do so only
to find the weaknesses in the other person's reasoning.
II.
We
aren't open to new ideas or to the possibility of changing our opinions.
We want to prove the superiority of our side (and the inferiority of the other
side). Even when we "win" an argument, we usually do so by losing a potential
ally.
Here are some tips to keep discussions from
turning into arguments:
Don't argue.
Refuse to get drawn into an argument. Be
civil. Respect the other person as much as your honor your own values. Be
assertive without resorting to aggression.
Seek areas of agreement.
Often, we agree with people in principle, but
disagree with them in practice. (We want the same thing — safer schools for our
children, for example — but we have different ideas of how to accomplish it.)
Find those areas of agreement. Make them explicit. Try always to make the other
person a fellow problem-solver, neither an opponent nor a friend.
Focus on interests, not positions.
An issue is what we want or need — safer
schools for example. A position is a way of achieving it. Avoid getting attached
to your positions so that you don't lose sight of your interests. It's often
easier to negotiate and compromise around interests than around positions.
Try to see things from the other person's
point-of-view.
There's a reason
why other people act and think the way they do — however illogical,
wrong-headed, or misguided as it may seem to you. If you condemn them or show
contempt for their reasoning, they will only harden in their resolve. They will
resent and resist you. Seek, instead, to ferret out their hidden reasons, and
you will find the key to their motivation.
Ask clarifying questions.
Ask open-ended
questions. Closed questions — like "Do you agree with my proposal?" — limit
people's ability to express themselves. Open-ended questions — like "How do you
feel about my proposal?" — give them greater freedom and give you more
information.
Listen.
Spend more time
listening than speaking. (You can't get yourself into trouble by listening, but
you sure can start a brawl by speaking.) Listen with your body, your eyes, and
your mind as well as with your ears. Try to understand what people mean, without
getting caught up in the exact words they say. Make them feel understood, and
they'll be much more likely to try to understand you.
If you're wrong, admit it.
There's nothing
wrong with changing your opinion, once you've gained new information or
perspective. As a matter of fact, it's the sign of wisdom and maturity. Remember
that you've been wrong in the past even when you thought you were right, and
admit that you might be wrong this time.
If you're right, allow the other person to
save face.
You're trying to win people's cooperation, not
to prove them wrong. Your kindness will do more to gain their goodwill than
anything else.
Path2Success4Me uses these
principals to help people really discover their purpose in life. P2s4me helps
unlock what is buried inside you. Remember…it’s hard to learn when you are
defending. It is so much more fun to relax and listen, rather than anxiously
think up the smart next thing to say.
About Dave Thorpe, Founder of Path 2 Success
Do you want help
finding answers? If so, this program approach is for you. This is a
proven solution that can help you discover hope, purpose and direction.
Dave Thorpe is actively recruiting individuals who want to capitalize on this
incredible life coaching opportunity. Mr. Thorpe is a life coaching
specialist with credentials and experience which can be seen at
http://www.Path2Success4Me.com.
You can also see Mr. Thorpe's blog at
http://davethorpe.blogspot.com.
For
more information about becoming a
life Coach
or
to schedule an interview with Mr. Thorpe, please contact
Dave
Thorpe, Life Coach by email at
david.d.thorpe@gmail.com or by phone at 760.415.7911.
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